By Eva Brown, MS

Creating passion in the bedroom (and everywhere else) should be a priority for all couples if they want to live happily ever after. It may take some time to get into the groove, but it will be well worth it in the long run. Take some time to read this article and share it with your partner. The important thing here is to open up the lines of communication about one of the most important aspects of a relationship—intimacy. So don’t be shy, read on… it is time to spark up your love life!

Couple’s Intimacy

Intimacy is the key ingredient of a strong, healthy relationship. Creating intimacy can breed a whole new playground full of fantasy and fun. Sex is more than physical, so honoring all of your senses of sight, sound, taste, touch, and smells will invigorate your evenings together. And no worries, it’s common for long term lover’s to experience a romantic rut, but it’s those that overcome the boredom in the bedroom and take responsibility for reigniting that spark that reap the rewards of closeness and happiness all over again.

Make sexual intimacy a priority for this Valentine’s season. If you haven’t experienced intimacy in a while, sitting your partner down and communicating your new desires for the relationship may be a good start. Perhaps, if you both are really busy, setting a schedule that works for both of you would be beneficial. Besides, setting a schedule will surely heighten the anticipation of the big event.

For those of you that have a low libido don’t let that stop you because your libido will boost as you experience more frequent sexual activity. Sexual activity does not have to include sexual penetration, as you can include many other elements to set the stage for a romantic evening together. Be creative, have fun, and get in touch with your inner desires as a couple. Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, so it’s the perfect time to try something new and exciting in the bedroom.

Couple’s Health and Wellness

Regular sexual activity can help reduce anxiety and stress, burn calories, reduce the risk of heath disease, lower blood pressure and cholesterol, boost the immune system and the libido, increase levels of estrogen, and overall functioning of the human body. Sexual activity four times a week or more will create a healthy glow that you and your partner were able to create for each other. Most importantly, both of you will have achieved sparking up that flame by keeping boredom out of the bedroom for this Valentine’s Season. Keeping boredom in the bedroom at bay is essential to a flourishing, sexually charged relationship.

Couple’s Fitness

Having sexual intercourse with your loved is great for your body’s overall muscle tone, including those major areas known as the abs, buttocks, and thighs. The release of hormones, known as endorphins, will reduce your daily stress and create a more positive, relaxed demeanor throughout the rest of the day. The potential to burn more than 250 calories a day is just a kiss, a hug, and a pat on the butt away. So, what are you waiting for? Go ahead and start getting fit, while having fun with your partner.

Couple’s Confidence

Making “feeling good” about yourself a priority will shine through in the ways you interact with your loved one. Regardless of your busy and tiring schedule, taking some “me time” will allow you to re-energize your soul and put you back on track with what you desire in life. Even if it’s just 30 minutes a day, take time out to pamper yourself. It will make a significant difference in the way you look and feel about yourself.

Words of Wisdom

If you are having problems in the bedroom, don’t feel alone. Most couples experience a relationship rut, especially if they have been in a long term relationship. Although, statistics show that, “93% of Americans rate having a happy marriage as one of their most important objectives in life,” (Carroll & Doherty, 2003), infidelity, misunderstandings in communication, intimacy and sexual issues, financial problems, co-parenting complications, and growing apart after years of raising a family together are some common issues that get in the way of having a mutually satisfying intimate life.

The research shows that even when couples have a strong desire to rebuild their love life, couples often times wind up feeling stuck trying to figure out how, when, or why things went wrong. To exacerbate the problem even further, couples often times give up on creating intimacy in their relationship because of many reasons that hamper their ability to take control of their love lives. A low libido, poor love making skills, lack of passion in the bedroom, lack of lubrication and pain during sexual intercourse, and male erectile problems are a few of the many reasons couples feel at a loss when it comes to creating intimacy in their relationship. Many couples think that if they don’t talk about it, it will remedy itself, but it doesn’t. In fact, studies prove that it only gets worse when couples neglect to have those vulnerable and often difficult conversations.

You may be thinking that it’s time that you start taking your love life into your own hands. Perhaps, you and your loved one are ready to reignite that spark that some how got lost in the daily grind of life. Start applying all of the tips that I have shared with you in this article and experience your love life being reignited in the ways that you prefer. If you need some help putting the grove back into your relationship, don’t wait, and seek professional help from a therapist. He or she can assist you and your partner in rediscovering each other, getting both of you back in touch with your most intimate hopes, dreams, and desires your relationship deserves. Living happily ever after is only possible when your priority is your relationship! Happy Valentine’s Day!

Eva Brown, M.S. is a Doctoral Marriage and Family Therapist Intern. She has recently joined International Holistic Center’s Health Fusion team. Eva strives to assist her client’s in making the preferred changes they desire to make in their lives. She specializes in sexual education, pre-marital planning for newlyweds, couples intimacy & sexual issues, sexual coercion, sexual abuse, divorce, domestic abuse, sexual assault, general relationship issues, communication, co -parenting, stress and anger management, mid-life crisis, & infidelity. For more information visit www.IHCHealthFusion.com, or call the office #954-903-9426 to schedule an appointment.